Talking about your feelings is tiring. First you need to set the stage for your inner reality. Where you’re from, nuances relevant to what you’re about to share (hopefully you find and articulate these nuances, otherwise it might get messy).
Then once someone is on–boarded with enough details to the colors you filter reality with they need start filling the gaps, consider the invisible lines, subliminally categorize you in a mental model.
Then we can start actually tell the story of *what happened*.The narrative that disrupted our respective well-kept tranquility. What was it that changed our mode.
Only now can we talk about the meaning of it (our feelings).
I guess that explains why people go to theatre, movies and shows together. To share (external) experiences, and then talk about what it all means (internally).